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{November 11, 2011}   tough love article for fatties

February 08, 2010

Fat? Just think yourself thin

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If you’re fat, it’s your fault. Stop blaming food companies and diets and look in the mirror. You’re the problem. You’re the solution. Grow up, get tough and fix it.” –Steve Siebold, author of “Die Fat or Get Tough: 101 Differences in Thinking Between Fat People and Fit People.”

Ah, if only it were that easy. But in some cases it is. While we know that genetics and social factors also play a role in obesity, for some people, weight loss simply requires the right mindset.

Once you know how to think like a “fit” person, rather than a “fat” person, the weight will come off like magic, said Seibold, a mental toughness coach who trains corporate sales teams and athletes.

For example, fat people, or what Siebold calls “middle class thinkers,” believe diet and exercise is an added burden in life that can only be tolerated for short periods of time.

Fit people, on the other hand, or “world class thinkers” see diet and exercise as a mandatory habit that will keep them physically, emotionally and mentally sharp.

That means expect to feel pain or suffer when you’re working out, said Siebold, whose book looks at 101 differences between fat and fit thinking. Then have a plan to push forward when through it, rather than giving up. “If you’re not ready to suffer during adversity, you’re not going to be successful,” he said.

Siebold insists he’s not preaching from an ivory tower. The idea for the book came after he packed on 40 pounds while traveling around the country speaking on mental toughness. His doctor suggested he started following his own advice.

So Siebold applied his tough love approach to obesity and wrote what he called the “Fat Loser” workout. He lost the weight and says if he can do it, so can you.

As you might expect, his “it’s-your-own-damn-fault” approach doesn’t always go over very well. He received three death threats after his recent appearance on the Today Show

But Siebold says overweight people are living in an alternate reality. When he asked those who were at least 50 pounds overweight and married whether their size affected their sex life, 90 percent said “no,” he said.

That’s the level of delusion we found,” he said. “These people are smart and educated but delusional. Your husband doesn’t notice? Women would say ‘he loves me.’ I’d say, ‘Of course he loves you but do you think he’s just as attracted to you as when you were thinner?’ The delusions run so thick with this topic it’s unbelievable.”

His bottom line? The thinking is the cause. “Go to your doctor, get on a good diet and then do the work and get the result. The only variable is you,” Siebold said.

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{November 11, 2011}   potential diet pills

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{November 11, 2011}   my new thinspirations/ goals
  1. I really want to cos-play Yoko from Gurren Lagan. Dev said if I were an anime girl I’d be her, and she is a TOTAL hottie. (She wears a bikini and carries a sniper rifle!) Next year the anime club goes to Con again and I’ll be 18, old enough to go and dress up and have fun if I want to. 😉
  2. The Lady Gaga concert is in September! Wear something outrageous and slutty.

{November 11, 2011}   life updates

I was IMing Dev last night for 4 hours. (He started IMing me, so I figured it was okay.) We talked about his ex-gf, whose name I think is Anne. She used to date his friend, but he went out with her anyways. She ended up breaking his heart so badly that even though it was last April, he still hurts – he cried about it last night when we were IMing, and later said if I didn’t change the subject he might start again. 😦

I asked him if he wanted me to talk to a woman I know who does pro-bono work, and he immediately went “don’t curse her!” , which I told him wasn’t even what I meant. I said it was going to be for healing. He insisted that he could heal himself, and that time had healed him before. To be totally honest, I don’t know anyone who

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